Who's Right, Who's Wrong And Who's To Say?

The past month or so has been pretty trying for me; for those that don't know, I've been busy with stuff that taxes me emotionally and, I might add, mentally and physically too. Throughout the course of these few weeks, I've received numerous pieces of advice, support, care, concern and well wishings from my friends.
Unfortunately, this wasn't the only thing I've been getting from them(friends).
Enter the issue of morality, I've had, in the past 6 weeks, people telling me what I did was wrong, why I was wrong, and what I could do to remedy the situation. By backing off. I ignored that piece of advice, and happy ending or not, only time will tell.
I didn't think then, now, and probably in the future that what I'm doing is/was wrong, having done my homework, analysed the different possible outcomes, even taking into account the feelings of the various parties involved; surely going after someone who's attached can't be all "wrong".
We live in a culture and context where morality is self-created. We as individuals decide what is right and wrong. To be precise, we and our peer group decide what is correct and incorrect. Humanity makes morality. This is a kind of pick and mix individualism and utility. We are interested in what makes us happy, what pleases us, and what is easy and most convenient. Think about the legal and medical professions, they each have their own set of moral codes. The same is true of the army; in November 1977, some army officers were legally cleared of gang rape, but the army still went ahead with it's own enquiry of whether their behaviour was appropriate of army officers.

What's wrong with going after someone that's attached, especially when that someone likes you? To the "morally just" individual, everything is incorrect about this.
To those that have judged me negatively, I don't blame you. It's a matter of perspective, a difference of opinion. Thank you for the constructive feedback; I couldn't have gotten a clearer picture of what I was doing otherwise.

if you want something badly enough, you will stoop, you will bow, you will beg, you will cheat. That's the very definition of the word want- to desire.
-Paul Ho.

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